Saying Goodbye to a Very Special Person…Pinky

It has been almost six years now since Pinky walked into my life. As i was grappling with looking after two six month olds, who would constantly cry, not feed, fall sick together Pinky came to me, recommended by someone who knew someone we knew. And just like matrimonial matches that are meant to be….this one was too…perfect and absolutely meant to be.

My  Lady Jeeves

My Lady Jeeves

I still remember thinking ‘Pinky’ is a too modern name for a Marathi girl. Later I came to know her name is Mangal and since everyone used to tease due to the movie “Mangal Pandey’, she changed it to Pinky. That’s the kind of girl she is, very proud and one that stands absolutely no nonsense from any one..anyone except her favorite Abhinav and Kaamya.

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When I first talked to her, I remember telling Pinky “pyaar se rehne ka bachchon ke saath”.  Really, I need not have bothered. She loves the kids and they adore her. All the time, they are like ‘didi, didi’ and half the time, they end up calling me didi. Didi also takes care of their studies (padai work), their dresses, their uniform, shoes and every little thing.

Pinky calls me didi . She has been truly a big strength for me. With her around, I never did have to bother about anything. She would even cook at times. When I took up Contentorial work, I can safely say i was able to commit well to it and achieve success only because she took care of the kids and a 100 other things.

Whenever Pinky is not there, things are haphazard. She does everything with precision and professionalism. As i leave for Bangalore, it is her that I will miss the most. It is easy for me to ask her to come with me. Actually, I did too. But she has her own reasons for not coming. And then I realized it is not fair that I ask her to come. She has her family and her future to think about.

Even if she would have agreed to come with me, it would have been very selfish on my part to take her. Just for my convenience, taking her is not right. I pray to God to give her the very best in life. Let her get a good job. She is bright and clever..let her get the right opportunities to move up in life. And eventually let her find love and happiness and everything else that she truly deserves.

Rarely in life you come across people who make an impact on you. A young 18 year old girl came into my life and changed it in many ways. I only hope her association with me has been beneficial to her in some ways too.

As I move on in life, I am sure I will get other maids to do things and take care of things. But there will be no one like Pinky, I am sure. The only one like Pinky is Pinky herself. God bless her and all the best to her.

Saying goodbye to special people  is indeed hard…..


NaPoWriMo…Here I Come

In what is a first of sorts, I have signed up for the  NaPoWriMo, meaning National Poetry Writing Month. I am supposed to write 30 poems in 30 days, hahaha…

Well at least it is something. This is going to be so much fun (i hope). And i will have a blast figuring out rhyming words.

Yes I am old school and i believe poetry needs to rhyme.

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Boy! What A Day at RTO

Boy! What a day it has been. I spent a lot of time at RTO today and am much wiser about the inner workings of the Regional Transport Office.

Firstly, it was a no-show by our Honda City smart card (RC book) that had us on the edge. It was more than a month since the card had been given to be transferred to my name and tensions were running high. We needed the card to effect transfer of the car. Countless calls to Ajit the agent and a fair number to Ashish, our car friend and SOS back ups to Pappa ensued. And finally the card arrived today.

Next step was the insurance and NOC for the car. Again have handed over card to Ajit and cheque for insurance. The NOC will hopefully come in a 2-3 days.

Then was the NOC for the Honda Activa. And then it was pointed out to me that the chassis area of the bike has totally rusted. So we need to apply for a new chassis number. Otherwise we will have a problem, registering the vehicle in Karnataka. Though the chassis number is present on the RC book, apparently, it has to be present on the vehicle on some part. So now again the processes for that are on. Once again, time is an issue. Why oh why does everything come together in a big rush at the end, giving so much stress and stuff.

And boy! what a day it has been….



The End of an Era…Last Day of Ashok Academy

Well, it happened today, folks. What I consider an epoch making moment in my small little world happened today. It is not something big and fancy which affected the world. No one even perhaps noticed it. But today for the last time, Abhinav and Kaamya went to their very first school Ashok Academy.

A and K in Ashok Academy Uniform

Next year new class, new school, new friends, new teachers…because it will be a new city…Bangalore.

We have had our shares of ups and downs with the school. Downs I will not mention because I would rather that those memories fade with time. But ups yes.. quite a few. The first time the kids started spending extended time away from home. From junior kg, the timing was 7:50 to 1:40. In fact this huge gap is what prompted me in the first place to look for work and today I have a fine writing career of my own.

Ashok Academy is a CBSE school. We chose it because it was close to our home and because we got admission there. We had our initial doubts, but along the way, we realized this was one of our best decisions. the kids have really evolved in the school. they have learned so much. I am happy.

Ashok Academy has given A and K 3 sports days and 2 annual days, monthly open house days and more importantly 2 meals each day.

Annual Day 2012- Jr. KG

Now in Bangalore, I will have to prepare ‘tiffin’ for school for the very first time and answer that dreaded question every mother faces everyday everywhere in the world- “Mum whats for dabba today”

So Ashok Academy, we say goodbye to you, to Sushmita teacher(nursery) Meghna teacher (Jr. KG) and Kanchan Teacher (Sr. Kg) and dear dear ‘Principal Madam’, who strikes terror in the heart of every student. and here’s hoping VIBGYOR turns out to be as much fun, laughter and adds as much value as Ashok Academy.  Academics come and go and in my opinion, creating confident well rounded youngsters is what schools should do and I have no doubt Ashok Academy is on the right track.

And here’s hoping and praying that VIBGYOR in Bangalore is too.

A Cheat Post for 2013

OK, here it is. I have come back here after ages. And though i knew I had made a resolution of 52 posts for 52 weeks, I am seriously lagging behind.

So here is a cheat post talking about the fact that I am lagging behind. Cheat post because it says nothing, yet counts towards the number.

Hahaha.. aren’t i clever?

I sure am.

More soon..hopefully without any more cheat posts.



When did the Letters Stop

Some days back, when I was cleaning up the junk from another era (my college days), I came across an entire stack of letters and cards sent by friends while I was in Hyderabad. I am just wondering when did those letters and cards stop? The last birthday card I received was in.. (i dont remember)..perhaps a couple of years after my marriage from Anand and/or Amma-Appa (both mine and A’s). But it has been ages since I received a card from a friend. And worst part I did not even realize that the letters and cards had stopped till recently.

What does this mean?  That the friendship of those years has no value? It cannot be that because at that time, it was very special. And today too those friendships have special place. I cannot forget the Jumpackers, our 84 journeys, the Trivandrum Pharmacy trip and the budding romance between two of my best friends.

Now these best friends are married (happily to each other) and have two boys of their own. How often do we meet? Rarer than rare. Is it good? No. But perhaps it is practical. Everyone is busy, everyone has commitments. And often family comes first when there is limited time to be allocated. Perhaps thats why distances do creep in…. Sad, but true.

What particularly set me thinking was a letter from J. We were the best of friends, but now we are no more than strangers. We hardly ever talk. She is busy executive, travelling the world over and I am a busier mom, ferrying my kids here and there. In a way, thank God for Facebook. I at least know whats happening in everyone’s lives. FB kind of helps me take away the pain that letters no longer arrive.

But I just cant help wondering when and why did those letters stop?

The First Day of the New Year 01/01/2013

OK, how is this day different? Not in any obvious way. I woke up as usual carrying the heavy burden of pending work. Had my regular two cups of coffee.

The sun has risen on 2013

The sun has risen on 2013

Went for my walk very very late. And by chance, found out that they are playing the ‘Top 50’ yearend count down on Radio One. Actually I was contemplating skipping the walk. Had I done that, i would not be listening to the top 10 English tracks of 2012 right now. A and I are sitting together, listening to home.. not in the car…now that is something that has never happened before. So i guess 2013 is not all the same same as 2012. Amen to that.

And one more thing. Important lesson – Don’t skip exercise, you never know what you may learn and it will surely benefit you.

Moving on..

With all the brouhaha over the ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ series, I purchased all 3. Frankly, I am quite disappointed. I got through the first book with some difficulty. And i have been stuck with the second one for ages. And I have this habit. While reading one book, i feel it is disloyal (?) to switch to another book before finishing one. But New Year’s Eve is best time to break off such ridiculous habits, that hold you back and interfere with your enjoyment of life. So last night, I picked up one of my favorite books for the umpteenth re-read – “PG Wodehouse Uncle Fred in Springtime”. I think this was the very first PGW i read and I was hooked. IMO one of the his very best book. I particularly love the passage between Ricky and his uncle – the Duke of Dunstable, when they are all bonhomie and hearty cheer. Just before Ricky strikes the ‘jarring note’ by asking for 250 pounds for his onion soup bar (!!).

Any case, one bad habit i broke in 2013. You also go ahead and break even more ‘badder’ habits. What say? Lets rock 2013.

BTW reached the top song on the countdown. it is Adele..what a singer..what a voice…