As we live, we learn. And one of the things we learn is that nothing matters. It’s only perspective. If you look at things in a particular way, it may hurt you, anger you etc…But if you look at the same thing from a different perspective, it may give you peace and happiness.
Why then do we choose the former. And why do we not directly think of the latter. After all, why should we make ourselves unhappy, when there is an option to be happy.
Except science and maths, there is no absolute reality. 2+2 is always 4, h2+o2 is always water. But feelings, interpretations, thought processes, even communication is subjective.
You feel X has a bad impression of me because I spoke thus. But X perhaps did not even listen properly. Y told you something and you linked it to a 100 other things. But Y probably just meant it for that time. How do you handle this?
(A) Build conspiracy theories in your mind, suspect or hate the other person and /or pity yourself or be hard on yourself.
(B)Constantly be on alert when the party of the other part is around and try to pick on signals that support the conspiracy theory you have created. So you are never relaxed. You are putting stress on yourself based on a conspiracy theory you don’t even know is true.
(C) Badger the party of the other part for reason for their behaviour. When someone says it’s nothing, it probably is just that. Don’t ask and re-ask and hate the answer when you receive it. Truth is great and all that. But the truth is not necessary all the time. If you can be happy without knowing the truth, just move on..Becuase you know what..IT DOES NOT MATTER.
(D) Think about it for a bit, immediately put a positive spin to it. Tell yourself, it’s not you, but the other person and then move on. This option keeps you happy. And you are put on this earth primarily to keep yourself coz no one else ain’t gonna do it for you.
(E) Always remember, whatever seems a big deal now, will not matter 2 hours down the line, 24 hours down the line and you’ll probably have a good laugh over it a year later, or maybe not..because you don’t even remember what happened.
(F) and let go. If you hold on grudges, ego, hurt and disappointment, you will slow down your own journey. Trust them still. Continue to be good. If you are good, Universe will reciprocate.
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- Don’t assume ppl said something because they are leaving. Think of the good times. Be happy they were honest with you. Why assume they hold a grudge. In fact, they don’t. It’s over and done with and nothing changes.
- Take it as a lesson and create SOPs for everything task/chore/activity.
- The greatest happiness comes from helping others, and the happiness increases manifold, when it is a friend. Someone had to go urgently coz they were meeting a friend. But someone else waited for you. Friendships are fragile, but beautiful. There is no room for ill-feeling. Write it down, get it out and move on.
- You may feel lonely but only if you let yourself. The simple solution- don’t let yourself feel lonely
On that note, look at the positive perspective.
Look at the positive perspective of any two actions every single day