The Spring in her Step

She’s grown up, she’s tiny

She falls, but she’s never whiny.

She’s my heart, she’s my soul

She’s the crucial part that makes me whole.

Watching her grow is a pleasure

Moments with her I always treasure.

She’s beautiful, She’s wise

She has innocence in her eyes

Not a single worry has she

That’s how I’d always like it to be

That’s perhaps too much to ask

And indeed it’s a tough task

I don’t know about tomorrow

I pray it’s always more joy and no sorrow.

For now I am happy to see

The spring in her step,

The lightness in her feet, the toss of her hair

As she walks as if on air, with not a single care.

It warms something in my heart and puts me at ease

And gives me an immense sense of peace.

God bless you, my daughter.

 

 

 

 

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Perspective or How we Look at Things

As we live, we learn. And one of the things we learn is that nothing matters. It’s only perspective. If you look at things in a particular way, it may hurt you, anger you etc…But if you look at the same thing from a different perspective, it may give you peace and happiness.

Why then do we choose the former. And why do we not directly think of the latter. After all, why should we make ourselves unhappy, when there is an option to be happy.

Except science and maths, there is no absolute reality.  2+2 is always 4, h2+o2 is always water. But feelings, interpretations, thought processes, even communication is subjective.

You feel X has a bad impression of me because I spoke thus. But X perhaps did not even listen properly. Y told you something and you linked it to a 100 other things. But Y probably just meant it for that time. How do you handle this?

(A) Build conspiracy theories in your mind, suspect or hate the other person and /or pity yourself or be hard on yourself.

(B)Constantly be on alert when the party of the other part is around and try to pick on signals that support the conspiracy theory you have created. So you are never relaxed. You are putting stress on yourself based on a conspiracy theory you don’t even know is true.

(C) Badger the party of the other part for reason for their behaviour. When someone says it’s nothing, it probably is just that. Don’t ask and re-ask and hate the answer when you receive it. Truth is great and all that. But the truth is not necessary all the time. If you can be happy without knowing the truth, just move on..Becuase you know what..IT DOES NOT MATTER.

(D) Think about it for a bit, immediately put a positive spin to it. Tell yourself, it’s not you, but the other person and then move on. This option keeps you happy. And you are put on this earth primarily to keep yourself coz no one else ain’t gonna do it for you.

(E) Always remember, whatever seems a big deal now, will not matter 2 hours down the line, 24 hours down the line and you’ll probably have a good laugh over it a year later, or maybe not..because you don’t even remember what happened.

(F) and let go. If you hold on grudges, ego, hurt and disappointment, you will slow down your own journey. Trust them still. Continue to be good. If you are good, Universe will reciprocate.

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  1. Don’t assume ppl said something because they are leaving. Think of the good times. Be happy they were honest with you. Why assume they hold a grudge. In fact, they don’t. It’s over and done with and nothing changes.
  2. Take it as a lesson and create SOPs for everything task/chore/activity.
  3. The greatest happiness comes from helping others, and the happiness increases manifold, when it is a friend. Someone had to go urgently coz they were meeting a friend. But someone else waited for you. Friendships are fragile, but beautiful. There is no room for ill-feeling. Write it down, get it out and move on.
  4. You may feel lonely but only if you let yourself. The simple solution- don’t let yourself feel lonely

On that note, look at the positive perspective.

Practical Exercise:

Look at the positive perspective of any two actions every single day

 

 

 

Silence is Golden…Or Look Within

Once upon a time someone commented that I don’t care who comes or goes (at work). That may well be true, but I am human too. Of course I care. But I am just too tied up to think more.

Having said that, someone else recently in an emotionally charged atmosphere commented that silence is golden. Indeed, this is true. This is a rule we all need to follow.  For every word that I speak, there should be at least 100 that i dont. We should learn to get comfortable in silences. We should learn that silence is OK. Spaces and gaps don’t have to be filled with words. Life is good with words, but it is better with silence.

Again, silence should not be confused with lack of communication and crystal cleat communication at that. Oh No.. we need communication and lots of it.

But talk, unnecessary, irrelevant, hurtful. No. It never helped anyone. Further no probing questions either. If someone wants to share, they will. Don’t push them to. Don’t cross personal spaces. Have friends…be happy. Don’t try to get over close or give advice. It may not be appreciated.

To analyze what happened here.  It was my way of thinking. Maybe it’s prejudiced by proximity and in my mind, I was trying to help. Giving advice, But she had a point when she said no one does anything she took initiative. And maybe we are a victim of our thought process. Maybe it’s time to see things positively. Isn’t that what the secret is about.

I preach and practice the secret coz I believe in it.

On that note:

  1. Think, think, think and then speak.
  2. Look at the postives- remember the Secret.
  3. Don’t probe.
  4. Encourage. Let ppl grow. They’ll grow and push you up.
  5. A team is good because of it’s leader.
  6. Leaders are confident..not insecure.
  7. You have written about it, spoken to the other person, introspected and now let it go.
  8. Don’t bring it up.

 

 

 

 

Life is Good

What’s not to like about life? There is love, happiness, laughter, friends and family.
And there’s exercise in the morning. Truly exercise releases endorphins making me (us) feel good about myself (ourselves). I would urge everyone to indulge in some form of exercise everyday.

And i would also always recommend a positive frame of mind. Nothing beats positivity. The fact is no problem/issue/difficulty is insurmountable. Everything has a solution and can be resolved. Or it wont matter so much few hours/days down the line.

Of course, I also have a lot to work on. But then the idea of writing this is to once again to focus on my blessings and remind myself how lucky I am. Coz lucky I am!!

Keep rocking everyone!!

Life is a Full Circle- Meeting Pinky and her Baby

What goes around comes around, time waits for no one, it passes on and things happen. Things, which at one point seemed a long way off in the future, are suddenly there right in front of you. You look back realize with a start – “Whoa, time has passed indeed!”.

What seems now like a million years ago, I had once remarked to Pinky, ” And one day we’ll come to see your baby”. She had laughed, I had laughed and that’s it. And today in 222nd September 2018, me, Abhinav, Kaamya and the MIL went and did exactly that. (Not laughed, but saw Pinky’s four month old baby).

Say hello to Ms, Tanyashree. She’s so cute. It was great meeting all of them. Of course Vaishali made pattice, cheese balls, dahi vada, as always. But the kids have grown up. They weren’t so talktative as they used to be. Of course they were thrilled with Ms. T. A was more interested in coming back in time to his match.

We made one mistake- went by car all the way to Madh. Best way is to go by boat from Versova. Road distance is too much and being a Saturday night, traffic was too much. While coming back, Abhinav and I came by boat. K and Paati came by car.

What a heart if gold K has!! Unselfishly, came with paati though she would be stuck in traffic.

SO yeah.. that’s that….Time goes on….

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all of us

 

 

London : The Journey Begins

So finally, the day of May 17th dawned bright and clear.  Well!! Duh!! It’s Mumbai and its May. It’s bound to be bright and clear. As always, the last day at work was hectic.

The best part of last day at work (I wish) for me is always putting the out of office message in the email. That done and ticked, only thing left to do was pick up the bag and move. And that I did.

Anand came to pick me up and woohoo..vacation started. Reached home,completed few pending chores, last minute shopping !! (as usual) and we were ready to go. Had to leave  home at 12.30. Tried to sleep a bit..but kids were too excited. Ended up being awake mostly. Left on time and reached the airport early.

All formalities completed and we were waiting, waiting waiting. We were to fly Emirates with their A 380 airplane.

Finally boarded. Everything was just super awesome. Only thing i felt that the in-flight entertainment options were limited, but then, maybe that was just a personal thing.

We were on board and flyingggggg!!! London Tumakda…..

 

When we Went to London and Other Stories

Hello, hello!!

First of all this post is two months overdue. We came back from London on 3rd June and I am starting this on 1st August. Well, better late than never.

So it was our first Europe trip as a family. We booked the tickets ages and ages in advance. A funny story that. We booked the tickets and realized..oops kids passports are expiring. That’s another whole story which I’ll write about another day!!

Getting Ready

Deciding a destination to visit is only one part of the story. The next is the most difficult part- planning an itenary. Where to visit, which are the must-see places, and so on. It really is nerve wracking. And at the same time you want to be sure that you are not missing out anything. You really need to spend hours and hours on research. Well, I did just that. Reached out to travel group – Girls Love Travel, spoke to people who have visited these places, researched for hours online and finally came up with half a plan.

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All bookings were done. We were particularly excited about Scotland. We had heard and (seen on the Internet) that its a beautiful place. We did all bookings- accommodation and sight seeing on our own. Went frugal and decided on Travelodge at Edinburgh. Side Note: Edinburgh is my most favourite place on earth. Wanna go there again. Wanna stay in a home in the Highlands. But that’s a story for another day.

And in London, of course, we were to stay with Prabha and Kannan and spend a weekend with Davy. See, I use the term in past tense. Meaning the schedule was reversed. We spent 4 days with Prabha and Kannan and more time with Davy. This was because of an outbreak of chicken pox at Prabha’s. Nevertheless, it was great fun. And because of this, we got to experience UK Indian hospitality at a totally different level and at the homes of veritable strangers!! Shout out to Sudha and Harish in Woking,,Woo HOOO!!

End of the post for today. From next post, we explore the journey and the trip itself.